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Reflections on Loss

July 3, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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The Passage of Time

Time is often given credit as a healer, but in fact time is a neutral party. Time alone cannot heal a deep wound; treatment is required for healing to take place. A significant loss causes a wound to the soul, … Continue reading →

June 26, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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In Conflict

Most days, I am in conflict. I wish my daughter was still here, but I would never want her to continue to suffer like she did. Reminders of Kayln are often too painful to bear, yet I desperately need to … Continue reading →

June 26, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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“And we wept that one so lovely should have a life so brief.” From the poem “The Death of the Flowers” by William Cullen Bryant, American poet and journalist.

June 19, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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The Path to Healing

As I have walked through the grief process, my expectations for healing and recovery have changed over time. In the beginning I imagined that being healed from grief meant I would one day be free from the pain. After all, … Continue reading →

June 19, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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  “You have seen me tossing and turning through the night. You have collected all my tears and preserved them in your bottle! You have recorded every one in your book.” ~Psalm 56:8 (TLB)

June 12, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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True or False

One element of grief I have wrestled with is guilt. After losing our daughter, I spent a lot of time blaming myself.  I agonized over every decision we made, wondering what we could have done to change the outcome.  If … Continue reading →

June 12, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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“We talk about heaven being so far away. It is within speaking distance to those who belong there.” ~D.L. Moody (1837–1899)

June 5, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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The Next Best Thing

After losing our daughter, I was overwhelmed by the thought that we would never again see a new picture of her. However, it was a blessing to realize there is one way we might see something new – through social … Continue reading →

May 30, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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Remembering

As we brought flowers to our daughter’s grave today, we were touched by the beauty of the flags displayed all across the cemetery.  In the midst of mourning the loss of our own loved one, it is fitting on this … Continue reading →

May 22, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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Dreams & Nighmares

One aspect of grief that I did not expect was the occurrence of intense dreams and nightmares after losing our daughter.  For the first year after Kayln passed away, I had many nightmares, as a result of processing the trauma … Continue reading →