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Reflections on Loss

August 8, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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The Overwhelming Nature of Loss

Loss creates a whirlwind of activity at a time when you want the world to stand still.  You are forced to make significant decisions when you are still in a state of shock and disbelief. I remember how difficult it … Continue reading →

August 1, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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Finding the Positive

Some people are naturally optimistic, while others have to work a little harder to stay positive. When you suddenly find yourself in a season of grief, however, even the most upbeat person can struggle to find anything positive at all. … Continue reading →

July 25, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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We all make plans for our future, and hope that our plans come to fruition. While there is nothing wrong with planning, we cannot control every aspect of our future. Sometimes we are blindsided by a loss that seems to … Continue reading →

July 17, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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Triggers of Grief

Many people who have lost a loved one discover that anniversaries, birthdays and holidays can be triggers for grief. I have found this to be very true as we have tried to navigate through life without our daughter. Special dates … Continue reading →

July 3, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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The Passage of Time

Time is often given credit as a healer, but in fact time is a neutral party. Time alone cannot heal a deep wound; treatment is required for healing to take place. A significant loss causes a wound to the soul, … Continue reading →

June 26, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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In Conflict

Most days, I am in conflict. I wish my daughter was still here, but I would never want her to continue to suffer like she did. Reminders of Kayln are often too painful to bear, yet I desperately need to … Continue reading →

June 19, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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The Path to Healing

As I have walked through the grief process, my expectations for healing and recovery have changed over time. In the beginning I imagined that being healed from grief meant I would one day be free from the pain. After all, … Continue reading →

June 12, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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True or False

One element of grief I have wrestled with is guilt. After losing our daughter, I spent a lot of time blaming myself.  I agonized over every decision we made, wondering what we could have done to change the outcome.  If … Continue reading →

June 5, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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The Next Best Thing

After losing our daughter, I was overwhelmed by the thought that we would never again see a new picture of her. However, it was a blessing to realize there is one way we might see something new – through social … Continue reading →

May 30, 2017
by Tricia Osterholm
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Remembering

As we brought flowers to our daughter’s grave today, we were touched by the beauty of the flags displayed all across the cemetery.  In the midst of mourning the loss of our own loved one, it is fitting on this … Continue reading →